Sunday, December 13, 2009

Two parties...

There are moments that stand out as especially significant - maybe not momentous but subtly significant. Today there were two Christmas parties. The first was a huge crowd of strangers eating boiled hot dogs and cake. There were children everywhere making cookies, visiting Santa, and receiving presents. There was music - live music of Beach Boys songs and it was held in the cafeteria at Valley Medical Hospital. This party was held to simply bless families of burn survivors.

The second party was with teenagers eating spaghetti with meatballs and homemade Almond Rocha. The plaster shook as they laughed and screamed and sang and exchanged white elephant gifts. There was Twister and music - from an Ipod and boom box and of course from the video game Rock Band. The part was held in our home and held simply to gather and enjoy Jacob's friends.

It was a subtly significant day. Jake for the first time visited the Burn Unit where he spent two months of his life of which he has no memory. Several nurses were able to greet him and hug him and all remarked - "wow you are tall, no wonder your feet kept hanging out of bed."

Significant day in that it to me is a day that shows how far we have come. The friends that had to visit Jake in two's at Valley Med and dress in gowns and whisper fearfully to him wondering if they would ever talk to their friend again were able to come into our home and just be kids again together. No great fanfare at either party acknowledging the achievement of a survivor but there is great significant. Amazing wonder that the journey has not gone the way of the grave but continues to move to life - abundant life. It is so easy to get caught up in how far we have to go but stopping and looking back we see how far and uneasy is the road we travel.

The Road not Taken
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveller, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I--
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
...Robert Frost

The road that we choose can often not be the one that we would have chosen. And we most definitely cannot go back to the place that choice was made. We must in fact trod on in forward motion; the attitude with which we trod makes all the difference. Each day has smooth and rocky paths; dreary depressing weather and amazing beautiful sunshine; and challenges that knock us back and also nudge us along. Each moment is a decision in who we are and what we will do. Do I act with integrity and righteousness? or do I cheat and deceive. Unfortunately the right path is not likely to be the popular and celebrated path but the one less traveled. Makes a big difference.

Praying for more subtly significant days and moments for Jacob as he continues to move forward on his journey. We are so thankful for deep friendships that we have found that has also made all the difference.

Peace and hope,

Tom (Daddy)


Mari said...

Love how far Jacob has to hear of all the fun had together with friends, who may not know how to express in words their deep joy & gratitude in having Jacob with them or their pride in his fight & achievements, but which is expressed none-the-less in the normality of their laughter & banter together...subtle but great significance! Praying with you for more of these subtly significant days & encouraging moments for Jacob and for more forward leaps along his journey to recovery! Love to you all from the Kings

John Hixson said...

Just to let you know, Tom, I continue to pray constantly for Jacob - - and all of your family. And I often question the Lord about why, how, did He let this happen to your family, for I have always felt I did not deserve His care like you do. But last night He answered me: "Judy, you're not capable of handling with faith the issues that the Kirkendahl family can, nor could you reach out to others in the way they have through these trials. I struck Saul down on the road to Damascus for I knew that he would be able to wonderfully serve me. And that's true of the Kirkendahl family, especially Tom & Robbie, right now!"
But I do know that God has led me to petition for others without ceasing. So, whether I, and many others, fail to comment on every blog you post, be assured that you all are in our prayers with regularity. Blessings from Judy and prayers for an Advent Season filled with hope, peace, joy and healing.

daisyfields said...

Loved this...thanks for continuing to share Tom...we continue to pray for you all. Best wishes for a blessed Christmas season - may you continue to sense His love and goodness in new and amazing ways.
Jeanine ~ for the Fields