Saturday, August 15, 2009

Being present

I opened my computer last night to post - but had nothing. I was very tired, but it was a good tired. There just seemed to be something right in the midst of all that is wrong. Robbie is with us for the weekend. Jensen is hanging with me before he goes back to a friends for a birthday weekend- good to hang with my sons and enjoy them - play some pool, talk, just be there with them. 15 years ago we were living in Ivory Coast as dorm parents at an international school. There is a whole lot of story that goes with this but one thing that really sticks with me and is in my mind a lot right now is about being present. One of the parents who had a high school girl in our dorm and a jr hi son in another dorm spent some time talking to me. He had helped build the dorm that we were living in and we were talking about some things that needed fixing. He was itching to help me and was talking about what he would do when he stopped short. He said, "I want to help you, I can help you but this weekend I am here to spend with my children. I will be back next month for a day to work on the dorm." Later that day I saw him sitting on a curb with his son and a couple of bottles of cola. In the midst of all of this I need to make sure that I make intentional time to be present focused on the one I am with.

As for Jacob, he is continuing to grow. He is struggling right now, wanting to get out of bed. Therapists continue to come in 3 times a day now to help him to sit up and to stand. He is shaky, confused, determined, ornery. He is pulling at tubes and pillows and trying to sneak his way out of bed. He seems at times to understand and to recognize us and pull us close for a hug and at times push us away frustrated and angry. In a sense we are recognizing his personality and yet at another level he is not yet Jacob. There is still a long road; there are still good days; there are still bad days; but he continues to grow - mature back to 17.

Doctors and are beginning to talk to us again about surgeries to come. His head; his heal; his thumb will need work - a lot of work. It is scary to think about all that is to come still. It is heart wrenching to consider what he has been through - what has happened to him. Devastating to realize that it has been almost two months. Yet we need to remain present in today. Thankful for the constant and continual comfort that so many are giving. It is so encouraging and strengthening to receive the love being poured out. Reading the blog and facebook messages knowing that prayers are continuing - that so many have not given up on us. It truly does help us to remain steadfast.

There is so much more I could say about being present but I need to go be present now - suppose to be doing other things.

God is not done, Jake is not done, we are not done...
"So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded. You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. For in just a very little while, he who is coming will come and not delay. But my righteous one will live by faith. And if he shrinks back I will not be pleased with him. But we are not of those who shrink back and are destroyed but of those who believe and are saved. Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. This is what the ancients were commended for." Heb 10: 35-11:1

Love, peace, hope

Tom (Dad)

9 comments:

einbildungskraft said...

Yes yes yes, how true. How important to be balanced! & Jacob is growing, yay! give him lots of challenge, he will rise to it!!
As much as we supporters and followers send you love and encouragement, at least I for one appreciate all that you send out to us ~ the time you take at this blog.
from a mom with a senior at Harbor

Cindy Todd said...

We continue to pray with Great expectation! Boy, remembering those days prior to you leaving for Ivory Coast Academy. What fun and yet....the unknown! Loving you all, Cindy

Susie Boggs said...

I think of you every day. I wonder and hope that things are moving forward. It sounds like they are moving, but never as quickly as we'd like them to. Patience is so hard sometimes, but it sounds like you are such the wonderful parents of such a special guy.. it'll all come together.
:)
Susie

Anonymous said...

Your comprehension of the importance of now is so huge. So many live their lives always talking about what is to come and forget to enjoy where they are. Zen does have a Christian translation. Enjoy your children. . . all three. And savor Jacob's journey as well. It is amazing what your child has done in the past few days. There is a great New York Times cover article (last Sat or Sun?) regarding brain trauma (of an 18 year old) , and the journey it put the family on. The brain is an unpredictable and miraculous thing. Jacob is showing amazing progress. My love and prayers are with you. Thank you for posting, but if you need to take a brake from time to time we will all understand and continue to pray. Maybe every other day?

CheriƩ Williamson said...

Tom, The verse you quoted today is the verse that Eric tattooed onto his forearm a couple months ago.... This verse has meant a lot to our family during this time with our son Connor...."We are not of those who shrink back....."

We continue to lift your family up in prayer. I am hoping that we can get up to see you all the next time we are visiting at Valley for one of Connor's appointments. We check the blog daily.

Strength for today and bright hope for tomorrow...

Blessings to you all,

Cherie' Williamson (Connor's mom)
connorwatch.org

dert said...

He is alive, he will live through this.

Thats a victory in itself.

His brain is recovering and rewiring its connections. Patience is the key, it is a long road ahead, but trust me, it has stopped climbing.

Anonymous said...

I read your blog each day. I am impressed by the love and strength of your family. I have 3 sons too. Jacob got hurt by being a good samariton. You must be so proud of him and your other sons too. I wish you all peace and strength on your journey through this crisis.

TheFordices said...

We continue to hold you up in prayer....Your messages are such a blessing to us each day...God bless your family as you draw close to Him in HOPE and TRUST...We love in you in Christ....

Dave and Barb said...

What great news to follow Jacob's progress, and how our God continues to be at work in your family. We pray, trust, and will continue to keep our confidence in our Great God....for what He will do. We love you guys, and look ahead with you to the ongoing victories, whether great or small.